Valentine’s Day can be thrilling and scary! Thrilling if you have someone to share it with and scary if you don’t. But I’m here to tell you that your Valentine’s Day can be thrilling whether you have someone to share it with or not.
Valentine’s Day isn’t you getting something from someone; it’s you giving to someone. St. Valentine’s didn’t get something from the people came in contact with, he gave them something. Love isn’t about what can I get, it’s about what I can give. When you don’t have someone to share this day with you feel lonely, insecure, unloved, ugly and unwanted; I know I’ve been there. I’ve been single for 16 years and felt like it, most of my married life. I have felt this way for many years. But this year, I realized it’s not about me. It’s not about my feelings and insecurities. I don’t have to feel this way. The devil made me do it! He makes me feel this way, not love!
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8a)
Love will not fail you if you use it well. You don’t love to get something, you love to give something. You are wonderfully and beautifully made. God made you out of love; his love for you! He knew you would be this exciting, creative, beautiful, prosperous, loving, fruitful, caring person. He knew because he created you!
For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one came to be. (Psalm 139:13-16)
You are not mistake; you were made on purpose for a purpose. You are not unloved; God loves you and will give the desires of you heart. You are not ugly; you are wonderfully and beautifully made. You are not unwanted, God wants and loves you! Be free, my friend, of the scariness of Valentine’s Day! Get a box of Valentine cards or candy and share it with your neighborhood or take it to a Nursing home/Retirement home. Invite a neighbor or someone from work/church to have dinner with you. Spend time loving on your kids and take them out all dressed up! Give back, pay it forward. The love you’re looking for doesn’t come from someone else; it comes from you and what God has placed inside of you! Share that love with others and you will forget all about the scariness of Valentine’s Day.
Remember, It not about me, it’s about you!