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Turning 50

In one month from today, I will turn the big 5 0 (May 7).  I am very excited! I know there are alot of people who wouldn’t be, but I have a lot of reasons for being excited!

Age 0-20

I had an awesome childhood.  I grew up in big family with two parents who lovingly cared for us. We traveled to different places, played outside with friends, went to church, ate dinner at home. Learned respect and social skills, how to fight, cry when I couldn’t fight, fall in love and out of love.  Made an awesome circle of friends, went to college, learned to drive, learned to work.

Age 20-30

This was not the greatest time of my life.  I made some bad choices (children, marriage, divorce), in that order. Things I’m not real proud of. But if I had not made these choices, I wouldn’t have my two wonderful daughters and grandson.  I wouldn’t have learned what I like and don’t like in a relationship.

Age 30-40

Life is hard as a single mom with two small children.  But I was always independent and positive. I went back to school (Teacher), I worked two or three jobs( workaholic), I provided for my girls, raised them to believe they could be anything they wanted as long as they worked hard for it and did whatever it took to make sure we survived.  

Age 40-50

This is the best part of my life so far.   My girls grew up, I was blessed with a wonderful grandson, I became a great teacher ( with experience, of course), I worked as a summer camp counselor (which I love, 5 years), I became a Children’s Author (published), I take adventures, go places, travel out of the country (Honduras mission trip).  I make sure to be intentional with everything I do; consistent, routine and self-discipline.

Age 50+

I want to make an impact!  I want to make someone feel like their the most important person in the room at that very moment.  I want to encourage, inspire, love, motivate, influence, share wisdom and knowledge, play, be bold, fearless and brave!

 

Turning 50 will be so awesome most importantly because  I don’t look 50 and I certainly do not feel 50. I believe the latter part of my life will be so awesome and I’m glad you’re a part of it.  Thanks for sharing it with me!

 

One Little Boy

During a trip to the laundromat, a little a boy approached me and gave me a card.  He said, “If you don’t have a church you go to, you can come to mine. Here’s a card to remind you.”  He gave me the card, I said,”Thank you!” and he walked away.

I didn’t tell him that I already attend a fabulous church (Revolution Church, Gastonia, NC).  I just listened to him and stood in awe as a little boy wanted me to know Jesus. He had invited me because he knows Him too and how much Jesus loves me.

As I was leaving, I spoke to his mom and said, “Your little boy has great courage to invite others to church and to know Jesus.  He will be very blessed throughout his life. Sometimes it takes a child to lead others to God. I know this to be true in my own life and my family’s life.”    I told them I would most definitely be there.

It reminded me of another little boy, Jesus, who came into this world as a baby to save it, to save us.  Sometimes, it takes a child like the little boy today who reminded me that just an invite, just a conversation, or just a reminder can lead someone to Jesus and change their life forever.  Be that little boy, be like Jesus and change the world; one invite, conversation or reminder at a time.

The card states: Good Friday at Elevation

                              Friday, March 30 at 6:00pm (www.easteratelevation.com)

                              Elevation Gaston

                             Forestview High School

                             5545 Union Road

                             Gastonia, NC 28056

Easter Sunday, you’re invited to : Revolution Church (www.RevolutionChurchNC.com)

                                                             615 W Franklin Blvd. (Central YMCA Campus)

                                                             Gastonia, NC 28054

Dear Parents

I’m pouring out my heart at conferences to let you know I’m fighting for your child, pushing them to the next level and loving them with everything I am!  And I’m thankful for your support of my purpose.

Your Child’s Teacher

Unfortunately,  most teachers do not work for the money. (the truth is:  there’s no money in teaching).  Teachers actually teach because they love it!  Most would do it for free, by hey, we gotta pay bills and eat.

The support from parents is very important to us.  Coming to our school conferences allows us to showcase your child’s work and the successes their making.  It also allows us to discuss things that aren’t so great, like behavior.

Let us in!  We should be supporting each other.  Most teachers have 25-30+ students they see everyday.  Your child is one (1) of them.  Let us help you maximize your child’s potential! We love them like our own!

Some days Singleness Sucks

Some days being single sucks.  It just does.  No matter how strong you think you are or how strong your will is to not let it bother you, it does.  It’s not a great feeling.  You feel left out, unnoticed, unworthy, unloved, unfriended, alone, neglected and sometimes abused.   Have your feelings, let it out, speak your mind, write your words, let people know.  More than likely, there are others who feel the same way at the same time, but would never say anything.

Christ-following singles are strong, lovable, smart, important, beautiful, honest, trustworthy, discerning, God-loving, generous, thankful, gracious, forgiving, friendly and kind, among other things.  We take relationships very seriously.  Our goal is marriage to our God-chosen mate.  Please STOP playing games with us.  We know what you are doing.  Our Heavenly Father keeps us in the loop by helping us discern who deserves our time and attention.
A relationship with us, whether just friends or beyond, is solid.  Because it is based on God and the truest of Love. It should only be in the best of hands, deserving hands.

A Change of Heart

These last couple of weeks have been very challenging at my house.  First, the washer breaks and doesn’t work anymore.  So we have been taking our laundry to my mom’s or the laundry mat.  Second, (this week) the toilet got stopped up and flushes but doesn’t go down.  Yuck.  Third, Friday morning, there was a rooster walking around our yard and was scared off by the dog next door.  Lastly, (so far), my daughter called and I left school earlier than usual, because she couldn’t get her keys out of the ignition.  This was an easy fix:  the car wasn’t put into gear before turning off.

Whew!!!!    As a human being, I think I’m entitled to get mad, upset, frustrated, stressed out or worried.  But as a child of God, I know that I don’t have to do or feel any of those things.  And I didn’t.  Can anyone of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?  Matthew 6:27  

All of the credit goes to God!  Before 2012, I would have been livid.  Fussing and cussing up a storm.  Raising so much cane that they could have heard me in Australia.  But now, I take it to God. I can’t change what happened and I can’t make it go away.  So I ask God for guidance and discernment.  He either fixes it or gives me the wisdom and the resources needed to help with the problems that arise.  I can’t do it on my own.  I need Him and the strength and love and grace and mercy and comfort and peace He gives me.  It is enough for me.  It’s just what I need at the time I need it.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.  Philippians 4:7

I had a Change of Heart.  It’s a work in progress.  I will never be complete until I reach my home in Heaven.  I’m glad God has patience with me because this has been a long ride.  I’m glad he never gives up, stops loving me, or pursuing me.  I’m glad he’s on my side and moves me forward.  I’m thankful that He died for me because He thinks I’m worth it.  I grateful for His wisdom and discernment that keeps me grounded and helps me move through this life.  

If I didn’t have God, my life and my heart would be different.  I love my life and the people who are in it.  Let God change your heart and your circumstances won’t be out of your control!

 

Happy Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is a day where love is shown, but everyday should be a day we show our love.  Love should not be saved for special days.  It should be something we do all the time, without thinking and without expecting something in return.  

1 Corinthians 13 is scripture that is referenced to when talking about love.  I grew up knowing it was the “Love Chapter” and my mom made me memorize it.  I want you to re-read the verses and replace your name where the word “Love” is.  Can you say you really know how to love?

3-7 If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.

Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.  Love doesn’t strut,  Doesn’t have a swelled head,  Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end. (The Message)

True love only comes from God.  He is the one who loves unconditionally.  He loves us unconditionally.  If we are following God and learning His ways, we should also strive to love unconditionally.  Love is shown in many different ways:  a smile, touch, hug, candy, flowers, dinner, phone call, note, letter, text, voicemail, time, etc.  Let someone know how much you love them today, because you are not promised tomorrow.

Whom Not to Love

Usually I write something fluffy about Love before Valentine’s Day, but I decided it was time to come clean.  Being transparent is one of the hardest things to do, but if it helps someone else or points people in the right direction, that’s a story I want to tell.

Let’s talk about Online Dating Scams!  If you have ever been contacted on a social media website to have a conversation with another person whom you might be interested in, it could be an online dating scam.  Maybe not always, but of the three conversations I’ve had with gentlemen over a social media site, it was always true.

The first time, the conversations lasted about a week before he asked me for money and that he loved me.  I told him he was crazy and that I was not sending him money.  I reported him to the social media site and blocked him.  He claimed he was in the military. He was widowed and had a child living the states with his aunt.  So sad.  He had stolen someone else’s pictures as his own and they found out.

The second time, I was a little weary but I was curious to see what would happen.  I know, curiosity killed the cat.  But I was curious anyway.  I had my wall up, so I just went along with it.  We talked for about 2 weeks before he wanted me to transfer money for him through my bank.  Yeah, right!  I told him, NO! He kept asking in different ways, but my answer remained the same.  One day, he asked me in a way like I had already sent him money before, then I knew that not only was he trying to scam me but was also scamming other people while talking to me.  So sad.  He talked about being a widow and about his kids.  No conscience at all.  I reported him to the same social media site and blocked him.  I also reported him to the FBI because I realized this happens a lot and they need to know the names of these folks.

The third time and last time,(still curious, I mean really, 3 in a row?) I conversed with someone who claimed to be in the military overseas.  He was a widow and had a young child living in the states.  It only took a week before he asked me to send him a $50 gift card.  Really?  First he asked me if I had a credit card.  I told him that I didn’t discuss money with people I don’t know.  But he just wouldn’t quit.  Then he outright asked me for the gift card after, of course, he told me he loved me twice.  Really?  I told him that he couldn’t love me, he doesn’t even know me!  So, I reported him to the same social media site, the FBI and blocked him.

Please, Please, Please don’t fall for these people.  I pray that you will be able to discern the difference between them and the ones who are true.  If you can’t, please don’t have anyone!  It’s not worth it.  With all these social media sites, it’s really easy to be drawn in to want to talk to someone and see if there is a way to become friends or be in a relationship.  But not at the cost of your life and financial freedom.  They don’t deserve you!

There are signs to avoid an online dating scam:  BEWARE!

  1. They say they love you, but they’ve never met you.
  2. They want to get off the social media site and message you directly.
  3. They are working outside the states or traveling overseas.
  4. They are single with children or widowed with children who are living in the states.
  5. They act like they are interested in getting to know you, but eventually ask you to send them money by credit card, gift card or wire transfer through your bank.

Love is out there, but not this way!  Find someone you can meet face to face, talk to a long time and pray for your future.  They are not on social media, they just maybe around the corner.  You just haven’t run into them yet.

Please check out these online dating scam articles:

1. https://www.fbi.gov/contact-us/field-offices/sandiego/news/press-releases/fbi-warns-of-online-dating-scams

2. https://www.scamwatch.gov.au/types-of-scams/dating-romance

3. https://www.usatoday.com/story/money/2017/07/20/fbi-says-internet-romance-scams-rise/485311001/

Article References:

1. Special Agent Davene Butler, (February 11, 2016)

2.  ScamWatch.gov.au, ACCC

3. Kellie Ell, USA Today, Published 1:27 p.m. ET July 20, 2017 | Updated 4:16 p.m. ET Nov. 29, 2017