Circle of Friends

Last night, I went to dinner with some friends who I haven’t seen since the summer.  We had a great time reminiscing about how much fun we had in years past. We laughed and recalled conversations.  It was great! But it wasn’t awesome!

During dinner, my newest best friend of 2 years, texted me and said that she missed me.  She sent me a picture of her hanging out without me. I texted her back and said that I was coming over.  My dinner friends wanted to go bowling after dinner, but I wasn’t feeling it. I told them that I wasn’t going because I needed to take care of my best friend who was going through some stuff. (which is true)

While spending time with my best friend, my second best friend texted me and wanted to talk.  It made me smile. I am a wanted woman! I sort of felt bad for ditching my summer friends to hang out with my newest friends.  But once I thought about it, I realized that my circle of friends had changed.

When you begin to change, the things around you change as well as the people.  Your circle of friends changes. My summer friends are a great group of people.  We will always be friends but with your change, comes new: new friends, new adventures, new doors, new ideas, new attitudes, new mindsets,  new relationships, new favor and new blessings.

As the old year closes and the new year begins, consider what your “new” will be!  And remember there will be things and people you will leave behind. But “new” things and people will find you, support you, love you, hug you, hold you accountable, encourage you, pray for and with you!  

Many blessings in your future endeavours and goals in 2019.  I pray that your “newness” will bring many new things and a new circle of friends.

Stay True to Self

When a new year comes, there are so many things we notice about ourselves, that we consider changing everything about us.  We consider changing our physical selves as well as our outlook.

Sometimes in the process, we lose the purpose or reason why we thought we needed to change in the first place.  Are we really that bad of a person that we need to change our whole self? Inside and out?  Should our thoughts and actions meet someone else’s approval?

You were created by a Heavenly Father who made you fearfully and wonderfully.  He chose you to be the way you are:  His!  We grow in and out of God throughout our lives trying to fit the standards of what other people think we should be or act.  If we would just Stay True to Self, you know, the one God created us to be, then we wouldn’t need to fix whatever we think isn’t right with our lives.

Be honest with yourself.  Who are you changing for?  Is it just you or someone else?  What are you trying to prove?  Who are you trying to prove it to and why?  If you feel you need to change, you need to ask God to help you and make sure it’s for you and Him.  God can help you discern what you need to change and why.

Staying true to self is hard work!  You have to believe in yourself and who God created you to be.  You have to have high standards and stand by them.  You have to ask God to guard your heart and body from people who want to change you into the standard of the world.  You have to have morals, character and Don’t Settle!

You are too precious to God to think you are less than His Princess.  He loves you just the way you are!

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.  My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.  Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.  Psalm 139:14-16 NIV

 

Two Words 2018

Every year I choose one word along with all the other people who choose one word to work on during the new year.  During our life groups (bible study groups), we create momentos to remind us of the one word we choose or God chooses for us.

This year, I prayed asking for God to give me my word because of course He would know what I need!  Well, he gave me trust, love, believe, hope and faith!  I kept seeing these words everywhere, sometimes together and sometimes separate.  It drove me crazy!

This morning in church, where I always have time to listen to God and after really contemplating the words he gave me, We together came up with two words.  Two words that encompass trust, love, believe, hope and faith.  My two words for 2018 are Seek Him!  Two words, one thought!  Wow!

Seek Him in prayer, family, relationships, business, serving, church, children, worship, friends, purpose, dreams, praise and scripture.  Seek Him for every area of my life.  Pure obedience to God!  It has been my desire for so long now to really know who God is and what His promises mean for me.  I’m glad He knows my heart and chooses words that are just for me. Boy, do I need that.

I hope you Seek Him and ask Him to help you find your word if you’re choosing to have one.  Remember He has your best interests at His heart.  If you follow him, he will lead you to unbelievable places where you will meet remarkable people and live an incredibly abundant life!  

Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us. Ephesians 3:20.

Happy New Year!

Become The Change!

Wow!  It’s almost 2018!  Happy New Year!   Most of us want to set resolutions for the new year, but if you’re like me, you’ll break them before January is over.  I resolve the same things every year:  get out of debt, save money, lose weight, exercise, etc.  Blah, blah, blah!  

There are things this year I want to resolve (the firm determination to do something) and I’m sure, maybe, I will, maybe.  But it’s hard to focus on changing yourself!  You are your worst critic.  So it’s easier to give up and no one really knows anyway; unless you tell them.  

This year, let’s change our mindsets.  Let resolve to focus on others this year.  When you focus on other instead of yourself, you forget all about what you need to resolve.  Begin the change by sharing a smile, a handshake or a hug.  Choose to listen instead of talk, let someone go ahead of you in line, help someone with their groceries, pay it forward in the drive-thru line, invite someone to dinner or the movies, volunteer to babysit a busy mom/dad’s children so they can rest, take someone to church and introduce them to Jesus, make a gift basket for someone who doesn’t get out much and shower some love on a pet.

Simple, but effective.  Not for you, but for others.  It doesn’t take a lot to add to someone’s  life.  It isn’t rocket science.  You don’t have to get out of debt first or save money.  You don’t have to lose weight or exercise first.  You don’t have to be rich and successful.  You just have to be kind, good, faithful, gentle, lovable, peaceful,  joyful, patient and have self-control.  These are the Fruits of the Spirit found in Galatians 5:22.  

We want kids in school to change their mindset from “I can’t do it” to “I can try it.”  It’s called the growth mindset.  If we expect kids to change how they think, why shouldn’t we?  You can try to change yourself or you can let God change you while you are being the change for someone else who then can change another and so on.

What do you resolve to do this year?  Is it for you or someone else?  Here’s a tip:  If you let God have control of your life and lead you where He needs you to be, your resolves will be resolved.  “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 NIV

Let God give you your future, your new year, your new you!  Your resolves will change, your life will change, you will become the change!