Why I Stopped Praying for my Future Husband

Two years ago, I started feeling attractive.  (What?) A nice gentleman and I started talking and I felt that I might be ready to get married again in the near future.  He used the words, “Godly Wife”. So I started reading Proverbs 31 and following groups on Facebook and Instagram to figure out what that even was.

Being a Christ-follower, I spoke to my Heavenly Father first.  I remember making this big long list of things I wanted and didn’t want.  I put it under my pillow and prayed over it every night before bed. Then I started following this group that taught me how to pray and what to pray for a future spouse.  It was great. I read the scriptures and prayed the prayers for a year. It became hard. I became obsessed and confused thinking I was already good enough and ready. Asking, “When is my time? Why not me?  Is he the one?

I even took a really good paid course on becoming and finding my future husband.  The course work was hard because it made me dig deeper into my prayer life and who my Heavenly Father is and how becoming “the one” is just as important as finding “the one”. My long list became a short list.  My short list includes: God, Protector, Provider, Lover and Best Friend. It was a great course. I’m glad I did it and I recommend it.

But like I said, I became obsessed.  I thought about it all the time. I wanted it to happen when I wanted it to happen and with who I wanted it to happen with.  I would just look at a guy and say, “Maybe he’s the one.” I would even look for a wedding ring.  

So I decided to close that season of my life because it took me away from who I am and who I want to be.  I hadn’t worried about what my life should look like or who I should be with for a very long time. I have God and my family, a career I love and a wonderful purpose given by God.  I am complete. I was making a mountain out of a molehill. I was creating chaos in my peaceful life. Worrying about things that are out of my control. So no more praying for my future husband.

If God blesses me with another someone, then I will wait and let it be a surprise.  I love surprises!

5 Ways to Set Goals for 2020

  1. Write them down in a journal, notebook or whiteboard.
  2. Give them a timeline and stick to it.
  3. Hold yourself accountable by telling someone you trust to help you stay on track.
  4. Speak it into existence daily.
  5. Pray about it constantly. God hears you and He’s working on helping you achieve your purpose.

Any goal you set is achievable if you are consistent, persevere and have self-discipline. I’m so proud of you!

“I need to change!”

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Transformation begins with believing:  “I need to change!” Wow! Have you ever said that to yourself or to someone else?  

I’ve said it a million times over my past lifetime.  But never to really claim it and do something about it that changed my life.  Until……….August 2018. I had researched DFIT and became intrigued with the testimonies and felt in my spirit that this team of regular people could help me.  I was finally ready!

This program has changed my life and the lives of those around me.  I don’t even looked like I did a year ago. I look in the mirror and think, “Who is that girl?”  Then I smiled because she looks great!

I’ve inspired people at work to look at their lives and change as well.  What you do affects others. Are you ready for that? Are you ready to change your life and others?  What would the impact be if you did? What would it be if you didn’t?

Recently, I asked these wonderful people, “Why do you do what you do?”  Here are their responses:

“People are unhealthy!  I want others to experience what I experienced, a healthy change!” -Demetrius Farrior, Personal Trainer.  www.dfittransformation.com

“I have worked with people that have mental health issues.  Medication doesn’t fix their problems, it’s something that goes way deeper.  I feel I can be one out of many that can address these issues and truly make a difference in someone’s life.” Ezekiel Nelson, Licensed Massage Therapist.  https://www.shopheavenlyessential.com    

“I do it because someone helped me do it and because I LOVE having the opportunity to help people virtually.  Because it’s my way of sharing God with others; because He is a God of Order. Andrea Anderson, President, Productive Environment Institute.  www.dfittransformation.com

Purpose begins with a LOVE of what you are doing.  Your WHY comes while you’re doing it!

My transformation didn’t begin as a LOVE, but a BECAUSE.   It became a LOVE eventually and then my WHY came!  

Transformation doesn’t just change your body, it changes every area of your life! It’s time for YOUR BECAUSE, LOVE, and WHY!  Take a Chance, make a Change! Become Transformed!  You will totally LOVE the new YOU!

Tis The Season for Transformation Live Event


Transformation can happen at anytime in your life IF you allow it to. It could be a job, body, relationship, attitude change for your better, your better mental health. Come join me and my mentors as we share our secrets and our lifestyles to show how we’ve made our transformations.

Get your tickets here:

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Organizing for Transformation Webcast | How Teacher & Author, Lola Brooks, Transformed Her Body and Her Life in Less Than 1 Year

Tune in tomorrow at 2:30 ET

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We all know what to do, but who holds us accountable? How to change your life around, training virtually. Important webinar with virtual client ,Lola Brookson how she zoned in virtually and transformed her body and lifestyle. Tune in tomorrow at 2:30. 

Silent Heartbreak

Poem by Lola Brooks

Too quiet to speak,

No words can express the pain.

There’s no one to tell,

you were my one,

Now I’ve lost you.

I did the wrong thing,

I said something wrong.

I’d take it back,

but it’s too late.

I carry the silence within,

no one knows me like you.

There’s no one to share it with,

you won’t talk to me and

I can’t make it go away.

Refreshment

This past week has had a lot more downs than ups.   Sometime life stops us in our tracks or at least slows us down.  No reason is known, sometime there is none. It’s just the way it is.  It’s how you deal with it that matters. Don’t let one or a million things change what you’ve accomplished.

I went away over the weekend before and my Dad went into the hospital.  I got home late on Sunday evening and got ready for school the next day.  Monday, I didn’t get up and go to the gym. I went to school and then went to take my dad home from the hospital.  Tuesday, I went to the gym, school and then a workshop after school. My mom called and my dad needed some things, so I went to pick them up and take them over. Wednesday, I didn’t go to the gym because of very cold weather,   I went to school and to a workshop after school. Thursday, I didn’t go to the gym because of very cold weather, I went to school and to two workshops (one after school and one at night online). Friday, I didn’t go the to gym because I was tired and sleeping in felt great.  I went to school, stayed late at school and my daughter called to tell me she had the flu. Saturday, I didn’t go to the gym, I woke up late, had my coffee, disinfected the house, washed clothes, cleaned the house, got groceries and rested. On Sunday, I went to church, made lunch, worked on my lesson plans for school and wrote this blog.  A full circle!

This blog is about refreshment.  I normally go the gym every morning (M-F) at 5am.  I try to live a very healthy lifestyle. But LIFE required me to change my day to day normal schedule into a schedule that made me change a few things, but in a good way.  After much thought, I realized that I have lived a healthy lifestyle for 5 months and missing days of workouts didn’t change who I was or who I am becoming. I didn’t change my eating habits or sleeping habits.  I kept in mind what I was doing and what I needed to do. I wasn’t going to let one week of non-workouts ruin my whole life. This week was refreshment for my life! A perspective of who I had become! And what I need to continue to do. LIVE!

I will be returning to my regular schedule program this week because I’m worth it and I miss it.  It kept me grounded and gave me more energy. Thank you DFIT for helping me to know and like my new lifestyle because it makes a difference in all the areas of my life. And I love my life.

Check out www.dfittransformation.com for your lifestyle change.  You will love your new life too!