Category: mental health

“I need to change!”

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Transformation begins with believing:  “I need to change!” Wow! Have you ever said that to yourself or to someone else?  

I’ve said it a million times over my past lifetime.  But never to really claim it and do something about it that changed my life.  Until……….August 2018. I had researched DFIT and became intrigued with the testimonies and felt in my spirit that this team of regular people could help me.  I was finally ready!

This program has changed my life and the lives of those around me.  I don’t even looked like I did a year ago. I look in the mirror and think, “Who is that girl?”  Then I smiled because she looks great!

I’ve inspired people at work to look at their lives and change as well.  What you do affects others. Are you ready for that? Are you ready to change your life and others?  What would the impact be if you did? What would it be if you didn’t?

Recently, I asked these wonderful people, “Why do you do what you do?”  Here are their responses:

“People are unhealthy!  I want others to experience what I experienced, a healthy change!” -Demetrius Farrior, Personal Trainer.  www.dfittransformation.com

“I have worked with people that have mental health issues.  Medication doesn’t fix their problems, it’s something that goes way deeper.  I feel I can be one out of many that can address these issues and truly make a difference in someone’s life.” Ezekiel Nelson, Licensed Massage Therapist.  https://www.shopheavenlyessential.com    

“I do it because someone helped me do it and because I LOVE having the opportunity to help people virtually.  Because it’s my way of sharing God with others; because He is a God of Order. Andrea Anderson, President, Productive Environment Institute.  www.dfittransformation.com

Purpose begins with a LOVE of what you are doing.  Your WHY comes while you’re doing it!

My transformation didn’t begin as a LOVE, but a BECAUSE.   It became a LOVE eventually and then my WHY came!  

Transformation doesn’t just change your body, it changes every area of your life! It’s time for YOUR BECAUSE, LOVE, and WHY!  Take a Chance, make a Change! Become Transformed!  You will totally LOVE the new YOU!

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Transformation can happen at anytime in your life IF you allow it to.  It could be a job, body, relationship, attitude change for your better, your better mental health.  Come join me and my mentors as we share our secrets and our lifestyles to show how we’ve made our transformations.





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Silent Heartbreak
	


	
	
	

		

Poem by Lola Brooks





Too quiet to speak,





No words can express the pain.





There’s no one to tell,





you were my one,





Now I’ve lost you.





I did the wrong thing, 





I said something wrong.





I’d take it back, 





but it’s too late.





I carry the silence within,





no one knows me like you.





There’s no one to share it with,





you won’t talk to me and





I can’t make it go away.

	


	





	

		
		
Refreshment
	


	
	
	

		

This past week has had a lot more downs than ups.   Sometime life stops us in our tracks or at least slows us down.  No reason is known, sometime there is none.  It’s just the way it is.  It’s how you deal with it that matters.  Don’t let one or a million things change what you’ve accomplished.





I went away over the weekend before and my Dad went into the hospital.  I got home late on Sunday evening and got ready for school the next day.  Monday, I didn’t get up and go to the gym.  I went to school and then went to take my dad home from the hospital.  Tuesday, I went to the gym, school and then a workshop after school.  My mom called and my dad needed some things, so I went to pick them up and take them over. Wednesday, I didn’t go to the gym because of very cold weather,   I went to school and to a workshop after school.  Thursday, I didn’t go to the gym because of very cold weather, I went to school and to two workshops (one after school and one at night online).  Friday, I didn’t go the to gym because I was tired and sleeping in felt great.  I went to school, stayed late at school and my daughter called to tell me she had the flu.  Saturday, I didn’t go to the gym, I woke up late, had my coffee, disinfected the house, washed clothes, cleaned the house, got groceries and rested.  On Sunday, I went to church, made lunch, worked on my lesson plans for school and wrote this blog.  A full circle!





This blog is about refreshment.  I normally go the gym every morning (M-F) at 5am.  I try to live a very healthy lifestyle.  But LIFE required me to change my day to day normal schedule into a schedule that made me change a few things, but in a good way.  After much thought, I realized that I have lived a healthy lifestyle for 5 months and missing days of workouts didn’t change who I was or who I am becoming.  I didn’t change my eating habits or sleeping habits.  I kept in mind what I was doing and what I needed to do.  I wasn’t going to let one week of non-workouts ruin my whole life. This week was refreshment for my life! A perspective of who I had become! And what I need to continue to do.  LIVE!





I will be returning to my regular schedule program this week because I’m worth it and I miss it.  It kept me grounded and gave me more energy.  Thank you DFIT for helping me to know and like my new lifestyle because it makes a difference in all the areas of my life. And I love my life.





Check out www.dfittransformation.com for your lifestyle change.  You will love your new life too!

	


	





	

		
		
Circle of Friends
	


	
	
	

		
	

		
Last night, I went to dinner with some friends who I haven’t seen since the summer.  We had a great time reminiscing about how much fun we had in years past. We laughed and recalled conversations.  It was great! But it wasn’t awesome!


During dinner, my newest best friend of 2 years, texted me and said that she missed me.  She sent me a picture of her hanging out without me. I texted her back and said that I was coming over.  My dinner friends wanted to go bowling after dinner, but I wasn’t feeling it. I told them that I wasn’t going because I needed to take care of my best friend who was going through some stuff. (which is true)


While spending time with my best friend, my second best friend texted me and wanted to talk.  It made me smile. I am a wanted woman! I sort of felt bad for ditching my summer friends to hang out with my newest friends.  But once I thought about it, I realized that my circle of friends had changed.


When you begin to change, the things around you change as well as the people.  Your circle of friends changes. My summer friends are a great group of people.  We will always be friends but with your change, comes new: new friends, new adventures, new doors, new ideas, new attitudes, new mindsets,  new relationships, new favor and new blessings.


As the old year closes and the new year begins, consider what your “new” will be!  And remember there will be things and people you will leave behind. But “new” things and people will find you, support you, love you, hug you, hold you accountable, encourage you, pray for and with you!  


Many blessings in your future endeavours and goals in 2019.  I pray that your “newness” will bring many new things and a new circle of friends.

	


	





	

		
		
Love 2019
	


	
	
	

		
	

		
It began with Love, when God created the world and it will end with Love, when God returns and Heaven becomes our home.


Love rules the earth and the Heavens.  It overtakes our lives if we let it in.  I began to learn to love again this past year. (2018)  I found the love of best friend and a lost love. After many years of blocking love with a wall I built to protect me from getting hurt, two people were sent to me to show me the love I deserve and wanted.  


I am grateful to God for always loving me and showing me unconditional love.  For bringing new loves into my life and proving that it still exists in the right people that He chooses to send.  But remember, you must be discerning and receptive to receive this love. It doesn’t always come the way you think it might. Thank you, God!


I am grateful to my loves who bring such joy to my life.  Showing me how to receive love has been their greatest gift to me.  I have always given love, but receiving it has been a little hard because of past mistakes.  Opening up, taking down my wall, becoming submissive and enjoying their love has made me a better person.  Thank you, loves!


In 2019, My one word is Love!  I choose the give and receive love.  I want those I love to know I love them.  I will overly love them because our days aren’t promised, even though my coffee thinks I’ll live forever. lol  


Learn to love God who loves you even if you don’t love Him.  Learn to love yourself even if you don’t. Find ways to change that without looking for others to do it for you.  Love for yourself should only come from you. Your happiness is just that: Yours. No one can make you happy, only you.  When others see your happiness for yourself, they’ll want you. But you can’t make them happy either. They must find happiness for themselves.  And when you come together, It’s a whole lot of love and happiness for yourselves and those who you give it to.


Grow together, love together, lean on each other together, have fun together, make memories together, build a life together.  Love, just let it in!


 

	


	





	

		
		
Walk It Out!
	


	
	
	

		
	

		
Slippers!   The day was not looking good for me! I left my wallet in my daughter’s car early that morning.  I thought I left my phone at home and would not be back until that evening. I didn’t, whew! I had a long meeting at school that morning, had to call a parent about their child’s behavior and write him up.  I met with another person about being the coordinator of a committee at school (my 5th commitment). I had a come to Jesus moment with another student who rolled their eyes at me. I took 10 mins of recess the next day so students in my class could practice how to line up to go out of the room and into the hallway, since they were having such a hard time with it that afternoon.


After school, I had a training so I can be a better teacher and my head was filled with gibbly-garb as I thought about all the things I needed to get done that evening.  I needed to write sub plans for the next day, put students in reading groups, start behavior plans, look at IEP’s and create MTSS plans and tweak lesson plans, grade papers, fill out interims and on and on and on…………….


In the car on the way home, I turned the radio to several different stations.  Finally, I found a head-banger 80’s song, so I turned it up and sang loudly and banged my head to the music.  I found it quite refreshing. Then I remembered what my trainers, Demetrius and Andrea (DFIT Institute for Transformation) told me one day when had a similar day before school started.  They said to go for a walk outside. I thought that would be perfect today. 


I got home and immediately changed into my workout wear, grabbed my earbuds and phone (playlist).  I walked in my neighborhood. I walked down my street and up another, up a really big hill and down the really big hill and then home.  As I was walking, I felt the breeze on my face, I looked at the trees, houses, yards, cars, saw a neighbor smile, a big dog (I prayed I wouldn’t be eaten) and all the drama and chaos of that day fell away.  I thought about how much energy I had now and how much I could get done, including writing this blog post! 


I still had a lot to do, but I could conquer it now with my extra boost of energy and the fact that the stress of the day had fallen away all because I decided to walk it out!  


Take time for yourself, especially those of us who take work home.  Notice your signs for the need to de-stress and find a way that works for you.  Be intentional, purposeful and creative. Not everything works for everyone.  Make it a healthy choice, make it beneficial for you and your body. Remember it is important for you to be here and do what you do.  So walk it out and find your “ME“ again!