Finally, my book, ” You Are Wonderfully and Beautifully Made” is in print. You may now go to https://www.amazon.com/dp/1790112540 and order your copy. There is also an eBook copy for your electronic device: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07KWLTD4B
It is inevitable that I write this single parent post on Father’s Day. I had so many friends and family remind me of my role as a single parent mother/father in my children’s lives. Not to take away from the father’s who are in their children’s life, but to stand up for the mom’s who are the ONLY caretaker in their children’s lives.
I celebrate Mother’s Day with a passion, I deserve that as a mom. But I, as a single parent, earned the responsibility to also celebrate Father’s Day. Where there is no other parental support, such as physical or financial, I appreciate the thought and support that family and friends give me as a single parent.
I applaud all single parents. It is a hard road to travel. But when you decide your children are the most important thing in your life, you will stop at nothing to protect, insure, provide, love and care for them. With or without support from others, you can make it. In fact, you can’t see it any other way. You will make it happen.
I know that even though I had no physical or financial support from their dads, I made it work. I fought for them, worked several jobs at a time, went back to school, sacrificed things and never gave in or up. I had family and friends who helped me tremendously and a Heavenly Father who looked after us all the time, protected us and provided for us when things looked impossible.
I would have never made it without my Heavenly Father. He has never left me or my children. He watches over us, protects us and provides for us even now that they are young adults. He loves us and wants the best for us. He has never stopped giving us what we needed.
I/We have a Dad/Papa that is celebrated on Father’s Day. He is loved and adored by his children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. I appreciated him for loving us and making me into a strong independent mom. His work ethic and teaching us to take care of ourselves has helped me grow into the person that allowed me to stand strong during my single parenthood.
Thank you single parents for standing strong during the time when your children need it the most. Thank you for working hard and teaching your little ones that they matter and are loved. Thank you to my Heavenly Father who loves me unconditionally and continues to take care of me and my family. Happy Father’s Day to all the Single Parents everywhere!
I’m pouring out my heart at conferences to let you know I’m fighting for your child, pushing them to the next level and loving them with everything I am! And I’m thankful for your support of my purpose.
Your Child’s Teacher
Unfortunately, most teachers do not work for the money. (the truth is: there’s no money in teaching). Teachers actually teach because they love it! Most would do it for free, by hey, we gotta pay bills and eat.
The support from parents is very important to us. Coming to our school conferences allows us to showcase your child’s work and the successes their making. It also allows us to discuss things that aren’t so great, like behavior.
Let us in! We should be supporting each other. Most teachers have 25-30+ students they see everyday. Your child is one (1) of them. Let us help you maximize your child’s potential! We love them like our own!
I had an interesting day yesterday. (say that three times) It reminded me that my children will be my children regardless of age and where life takes them.
I was awaken by a car alarm at 2:30 am Friday morning. I got up to see what the noise was and to make sure it wasn’t our cars. When I opened the door, I found that it was one of ours; my daughter’s. I ran to her room to get her keys so I could turn off the alarm. When I got to the door, I struggled to find the right button but eventually did. I looked out the side door and then the front door, but saw no one outside. I locked the doors and went back to bed.
After getting back into bed, I realized that I couldn’t go to sleep. This was very bad. The alarm would go off at 6:00 am and that was fast approaching. I texted a friend who I thought might be up and we talked for a while, but I knew that I needed to try and get some sleep. My students would count on me to be alert, I mean, it was Friday!
I did fall back asleep but not until 5:30 am and then the alarm went off at 6:00 am. I got up and did my regular morning routine. I went outside to check our cars to make sure nothing was done to them. (at 2:30 am, I was not going outside to check on the cars by myself) Everything seemed fine until I got to my daughter’s car. I unlocked it and went to open it, that’s when I realized it wasn’t really closed. It was like someone opened it, the alarm went off, they got scared and slightly closed the door so it would catch and look closed. (her locks don’t always work)
I checked inside, in the trunk and underneath the car. I was mad! My ninja skills kicked in and I was ready to kick some butt. This was my child’s property. Nothing was taken, but it was violated! You mess with my kid, you mess with me! I prayed for her safety. I prayed for protection over her life and her property. I prayed over our home and over my family. I know God has our back and he encamped His angels around us that night.
She didn’t want to leave by herself, so we left together that morning. That afternoon, I had an outing with my parents. My daughter didn’t want to go home by herself, so she came to hang out with me. After getting home that evening, she made sure to remind me to check and make sure all the doors were locked before she went to bed.
I know that my child is a young adult. But I also know that regardless of their age, marital status, their own children, their jobs and lives, my children still need me to protect them through prayer. Prayer is the only way you can protect your children when you aren’t around them. Prayer should be the first thing you do. I know I can’t always be with them, even with my grandson, but I do know that God loves them and me and He wants what’s best for us. I know that He is always with us and He protects and provides for us and you, if you let Him.
Be encourage today to let go and let God protect you and your children; your whole lives! He wants to and He does even without you knowing. He loves you!
Hey, go check out my latest guest blog on my friend, Holly Myers’ website @hollyhmyers.com. It’s called The Matriarch. It talks about women who lead! You will love it and be blessed!
Here’s the link: http://hollyhmyers.com/the-matriarch/#more-882.
Every year I choose one word along with all the other people who choose one word to work on during the new year. During our life groups (bible study groups), we create momentos to remind us of the one word we choose or God chooses for us.
This year, I prayed asking for God to give me my word because of course He would know what I need! Well, he gave me trust, love, believe, hope and faith! I kept seeing these words everywhere, sometimes together and sometimes separate. It drove me crazy!
This morning in church, where I always have time to listen to God and after really contemplating the words he gave me, We together came up with two words. Two words that encompass trust, love, believe, hope and faith. My two words for 2018 are Seek Him! Two words, one thought! Wow!
Seek Him in prayer, family, relationships, business, serving, church, children, worship, friends, purpose, dreams, praise and scripture. Seek Him for every area of my life. Pure obedience to God! It has been my desire for so long now to really know who God is and what His promises mean for me. I’m glad He knows my heart and chooses words that are just for me. Boy, do I need that.
I hope you Seek Him and ask Him to help you find your word if you’re choosing to have one. Remember He has your best interests at His heart. If you follow him, he will lead you to unbelievable places where you will meet remarkable people and live an incredibly abundant life!
Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us. Ephesians 3:20.
Happy New Year!
I loved Christmas growing up. Big family, big dinners and lots of presents; it was great! Undoubtedly , no expectations! You had to be good or else!
Growing up and moving away, getting married, divorced and becoming a single mom, whew….. life just happened! Your expectations change with each life role. Some are good and some just awful.
Let me explain.
As a single parent, life sucks! Especially when it comes to money. Not every every single parent gets help with raising their children or any household expenses. Most of the time, we work two or three jobs, try to go back to school to better ourselves and our situation or rely on our parents to help us make it through.
As any parent does, a single parent wants the best for their children, too. It just is a little bit harder to do when you can’t make ends meet. Bills come first and then I always have to decide between gas for my car and groceries. Sometimes I split it in half and pray, as God is my provider. Birthdays aren’t as hard because you’re only buying for one person. But at Christmas, you are buying for a bunch of people including your own children.
My kids had to find out early that Santa doesn’t bring all the presents. But that his spirit of gift-giving exists in all of us. I had them make Christmas lists in September and then chose, usually the least expensive things, to buy them.
They are young adults, but I still struggle. Just because your kids grow up, doesn’t mean your bills and responsibilities go away. They’re still there in great number and Christmas doesn’t go away either.
It’s an emotional time for me. I feel like a failure and inadequate as a parent. There have been times I bought Christmas presents with bill money and there have been times I paid the bills and not had very many Christmas presents. I realize it’s not about them and the way they feel, but about me and how I grew up and feel about myself. I wanted my one parent household (me) to look and feel like my two parent household (my parents).
I know my kids love me no matter what they get because they tell me. They know how hard I’ve struggled all these years because they tell me. I know they appreciate the life I have given to them because they don’t want to grow up. But the feeling of loss doesn’t go away with words or actions. You must grieve and then move on. You must allow yourself to feel the pain of what once was so that forgiveness and redemption can cover the loss. Then you can move on.
Even though Christmas isn’t my favorite holiday, I do have one! It is Thanksgiving because there are no expectations! I just bring the rolls!