People go around saying you need a reality check. Well, what they don’t realize is that everyone’s reality check is different.
Whatever you are living, whatever your goals, whatever your dreams are, is your reality. If you get off track, then your reality check is to reassess your whatever’s and get them back on track. What you do will be different from others and how you get them back on track will be different. You can’t look at other people and do what they do. You have to do what is best for your whatever’s.
Make a list (pro/con), think with your heart and your head, write down your goals and dreams and how you will get there. Dream BIG! Make sure these are your ideas and not someone else. Devote time to prayer and ask God what His goals and dreams for your life are. His plans are way better than yours and His journey is way more exciting.
Jeremiah 29:11 New International Version (NIV)
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Ephesians 2:10 New International Version (NIV)
For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works,which God prepared in advance for us to do.
God has already prepared and planned our lives for us. We just have to follow him to follow our destiny. Now that’s a Reality Check!
I have only lived four actual decades, but I’m starting on my fifth. When thinking about what got me through each one, I thought I would share them with you.
Decade one: Believe in who you are! You have great abilities that you don’t even know about yet. Just do you and trust in God’s plans for your life.
Decade two: It’s okay to be different! Follow your own path and heart! You are made for greatness. Just do you and trust in God’s plans for your life.
Decade three: Life is hard. Sometimes you already know what decision you need to make before you actually make it. Set goals and go after them no matter who is against you. Always believe in yourself. Just do you and trust in God’s plans for your life.
Decade four: Dream! Dream BIG! Let God change your heart to serve others, not yourself. Don’t be materialistic! Share your stories with others. Become a light in the darkness so that others can find their way. Just do you and trust in God’s plans for your life.
Decade five: Have fun! PLAY! Believe you are created for much more than where you are and what your doing now! Believe in people, not things. Create an environment in your life that invites others to want what God has placed inside of you. Set goals bigger than what you could ever hope to accomplish on your own because you know that God will go BIG on you! Just do you and trust in God’s plans for your life.
As the decades grow, so does the advice. It grows because your wisdom has grown. You know more, therefore you can accomplish more and create more. I pray that you will have many years to know how much God loves you and wants to create in you great advice to give to others who will need it. Just do you and trust in God’s plans for you life!
People look their whole lives for happiness. But I believe it is inside us our whole lives. Silly, I know. But look how we strive to do things, be things and accomplish things never to find happy. Money isn’t it, love isn’t it, family isn’t it, our job isn’t it, what could it be?
Finding happy happens when we’ve lived long enough to look back and see how far we’ve come. When we can see how we’ve changed, how we’ve lived, who has come and gone purposely in our lives, what we thought was important and what is important now.
Striving to find happy takes up our whole being and life. If we strive to find happy, we miss out on a whole bunch of things where happiness would be found. Your purpose is attached to your happy. If you have found your purpose, you have found your happy. It is not materialistic. It is found deep in your soul where only God can fill it.
I hope one day you find your happy. I have found mine and I have lived half of a full life, some good parts and some not so good. But I found that finding happy is attached to my purpose. Being a Teacher, Author, Parent and Writer are all connected to the people God needs me to meet and connect with. And before I became all these things, I wasn’t truly happy. I had to become all of them to appreciate what it meant to find happy. All these things together make up me and who God created me to be and who He created me to help and to help me.
Stop searching and waiting for happy, let it find you. It will! Until then, live your life. Do things that bring you joy! Spend it with people who bring you joy! And one day without you even realizing it, happy will find you!
You inspire me to think ahead
Of the future that could be.
You inspire me to want to see
What you already see in me.
You inspire me to believe
That things could change.
You inspire me to feel
Something wonderful and something strange.
You inspire me to write
All the words I cannot say.
You inspire me to speak
Of love and relationships that one day….
Will inspire me to think, want, believe, feel, write and speak of
A greater thing that will happen because
You inspire me!
When a new year comes, there are so many things we notice about ourselves, that we consider changing everything about us. We consider changing our physical selves as well as our outlook.
Sometimes in the process, we lose the purpose or reason why we thought we needed to change in the first place. Are we really that bad of a person that we need to change our whole self? Inside and out? Should our thoughts and actions meet someone else’s approval?
You were created by a Heavenly Father who made you fearfully and wonderfully. He chose you to be the way you are: His! We grow in and out of God throughout our lives trying to fit the standards of what other people think we should be or act. If we would just Stay True to Self, you know, the one God created us to be, then we wouldn’t need to fix whatever we think isn’t right with our lives.
Be honest with yourself. Who are you changing for? Is it just you or someone else? What are you trying to prove? Who are you trying to prove it to and why? If you feel you need to change, you need to ask God to help you and make sure it’s for you and Him. God can help you discern what you need to change and why.
Staying true to self is hard work! You have to believe in yourself and who God created you to be. You have to have high standards and stand by them. You have to ask God to guard your heart and body from people who want to change you into the standard of the world. You have to have morals, character and Don’t Settle!
You are too precious to God to think you are less than His Princess. He loves you just the way you are!
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. Psalm 139:14-16 NIV