An Abundant Life!

A lot of things happened in 1962.  Here are some of them:

Popular Culture 1962

  • Beatles Turned Down By Decca Records
  • Release of first Beatles recording: the single “Love Me Do”
  • Andy Warhol’s famous painting of a can of soup
  • Beverly Hill Billies is on TV
  • The Dick Van Dyke show on TV
  • Johnny Carson begins as presenter for The Tonight Show

Popular Films

  • West Side Story
  • Spartacus
  • El Cid
  • Lawrence of Arabia
  • To Kill a Mockingbird

Popular Singers

  • The Beatles
  • Bob Dylan
  • Chubby Checker
  • Frankie Valli & The Four Seasons
  • Neil Sedaka
  • Roy Orbison
  • Shirley Bassey

But one of the most important things that happened in 1962 was my parents getting married!  Wow! That’s 56 years ago! What a trek! Six kids, nine grandkids and three great-grandkids.  What an abundant life!

Living in any decade is hard.  It wasn’t easy. My dad worked and my mom stayed home and took care of all of us.  Growing up was fun and we were never without. If we ever were, we didn’t know about it!  We traveled, went on vacations, church, school, ball games, played with our neighborhood friends, celebrated birthdays, holidays, etc.  It was the life! An abundant life!

The abundant life they created together began with a love of Jesus and each other.  Then it trickled down into our family. Generations have been blessed because of this union and generations to come will be blessed.  All because two people fell in love and both of them worked extremely hard year after year to keep it together. Happy 56th Anniversary, Mom and Dad!

Happy Father’s Day Single Parents

It is inevitable that I write this single parent post on Father’s Day.  I had so many friends and family remind me of my role as a single parent mother/father in my children’s lives.  Not to take away from the father’s who are in their children’s life, but to stand up for the mom’s who are the ONLY caretaker in their children’s lives.

I celebrate Mother’s Day with a passion, I deserve that as a mom.  But I, as a single parent, earned the responsibility to also celebrate Father’s Day.  Where there is no other parental support, such as physical or financial, I appreciate the thought and support that family and friends give me as a single parent.

I applaud all single parents.  It is a hard road to travel. But when you decide your children are the most important thing in your life, you will stop at nothing to protect, insure, provide, love and care for them.  With or without support from others, you can make it. In fact, you can’t see it any other way. You will make it happen.

I know that even though I had no physical or financial support from their dads, I made it work.  I fought for them, worked several jobs at a time, went back to school, sacrificed things and never gave in or up.  I had family and friends who helped me tremendously and a Heavenly Father who looked after us all the time, protected us and provided for us when things looked impossible.

I would have never made it without my Heavenly Father.  He has never left me or my children. He watches over us, protects us and provides for us even now that they are young adults.  He loves us and wants the best for us. He has never stopped giving us what we needed.

I/We have a Dad/Papa that is celebrated on Father’s Day.  He is loved and adored by his children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.  I appreciated him for loving us and making me into a strong independent mom. His work ethic and teaching us to take care of ourselves has helped me grow into the person that allowed me to stand strong during my single parenthood.

Thank you single parents for standing strong during the time when your children need it the most.  Thank you for working hard and teaching your little ones that they matter and are loved. Thank you to my Heavenly Father who loves me unconditionally and continues to take care of me and my family.  Happy Father’s Day to all the Single Parents everywhere!

 

Advice Through the Decades

I have only lived four actual decades, but I’m starting on my fifth.  When thinking about what got me through each one, I thought I would share them with you.

Decade one:  Believe in who you are!  You have great abilities that you don’t even know about yet.  Just do you and trust in God’s plans for your life.

Decade two:  It’s okay to be different!  Follow your own path and heart!  You are made for greatness. Just do you and trust in God’s plans for your life.

Decade three:  Life is hard. Sometimes you already know what decision you need to make before you actually make it.  Set goals and go after them no matter who is against you. Always believe in yourself. Just do you and trust in God’s plans for your life.

Decade four:  Dream! Dream BIG!  Let God change your heart to serve others, not yourself.  Don’t be materialistic! Share your stories with others. Become a light in the darkness so that others can find their way.  Just do you and trust in God’s plans for your life.

Decade five:  Have fun! PLAY!  Believe you are created for much more than where you are and what your doing now!  Believe in people, not things. Create an environment in your life that invites others to want what God has placed inside of you.  Set goals bigger than what you could ever hope to accomplish on your own because you know that God will go BIG on you! Just do you and trust in God’s plans for your life.

As the decades grow, so does the advice.  It grows because your wisdom has grown. You know more, therefore you can accomplish more and create more.  I pray that you will have many years to know how much God loves you and wants to create in you great advice to give to others who will need it.  Just do you and trust in God’s plans for you life!

Finding Happy!

People look their whole lives for happiness.  But I believe it is inside us our whole lives.  Silly, I know. But look how we strive to do things, be things and accomplish things never to find happy.  Money isn’t it, love isn’t it, family isn’t it, our job isn’t it, what could it be?

Finding happy happens when we’ve lived long enough to look back and see how far we’ve come.  When we can see how we’ve changed, how we’ve lived, who has come and gone purposely in our lives, what we thought was important and what is important now.  

Striving to find happy takes up our whole being and life.  If we strive to find happy, we miss out on a whole bunch of things where happiness would be found.  Your purpose is attached to your happy. If you have found your purpose, you have found your happy. It is not materialistic.  It is found deep in your soul where only God can fill it.

I hope one day you find your happy.  I have found mine and I have lived half of a full life, some good parts and some not so good.  But I found that finding happy is attached to my purpose. Being a Teacher, Author, Parent and Writer are all connected to the people God needs me to meet and connect with.  And before I became all these things, I wasn’t truly happy.  I had to become all of them to appreciate what it meant to find happy.  All these things together make up me and who God created me to be and who He created me to help and to help me.

Stop searching and waiting  for happy, let it find you. It will!  Until then, live your life. Do things that bring you joy!  Spend it with people who bring you joy! And one day without you even realizing it, happy will find you!

A Change of Heart

These last couple of weeks have been very challenging at my house.  First, the washer breaks and doesn’t work anymore.  So we have been taking our laundry to my mom’s or the laundry mat.  Second, (this week) the toilet got stopped up and flushes but doesn’t go down.  Yuck.  Third, Friday morning, there was a rooster walking around our yard and was scared off by the dog next door.  Lastly, (so far), my daughter called and I left school earlier than usual, because she couldn’t get her keys out of the ignition.  This was an easy fix:  the car wasn’t put into gear before turning off.

Whew!!!!    As a human being, I think I’m entitled to get mad, upset, frustrated, stressed out or worried.  But as a child of God, I know that I don’t have to do or feel any of those things.  And I didn’t.  Can anyone of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?  Matthew 6:27  

All of the credit goes to God!  Before 2012, I would have been livid.  Fussing and cussing up a storm.  Raising so much cane that they could have heard me in Australia.  But now, I take it to God. I can’t change what happened and I can’t make it go away.  So I ask God for guidance and discernment.  He either fixes it or gives me the wisdom and the resources needed to help with the problems that arise.  I can’t do it on my own.  I need Him and the strength and love and grace and mercy and comfort and peace He gives me.  It is enough for me.  It’s just what I need at the time I need it.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.  Philippians 4:7

I had a Change of Heart.  It’s a work in progress.  I will never be complete until I reach my home in Heaven.  I’m glad God has patience with me because this has been a long ride.  I’m glad he never gives up, stops loving me, or pursuing me.  I’m glad he’s on my side and moves me forward.  I’m thankful that He died for me because He thinks I’m worth it.  I grateful for His wisdom and discernment that keeps me grounded and helps me move through this life.  

If I didn’t have God, my life and my heart would be different.  I love my life and the people who are in it.  Let God change your heart and your circumstances won’t be out of your control!

 

Protecting Your Children at all Costs

I had an interesting day yesterday.  (say that three times)  It reminded me that my children will be my children regardless of age and where life takes them.

The Story

I was awaken by a car alarm at 2:30 am Friday morning.  I got up to see what the noise was and to make sure it wasn’t our cars.  When I opened the door, I found that it was one of ours; my daughter’s.  I ran to her room to get her keys so I could turn off the alarm.  When I got to the door, I struggled to find the right button but eventually did.  I looked out the side door and then the front door, but saw no one outside.  I locked the doors and went back to bed.

After getting back into bed, I realized that I couldn’t go to sleep.  This was very bad.  The alarm would go off at 6:00 am and that was fast approaching.  I texted a friend who I thought might be up and we talked for a while, but I knew that I needed to try and get some sleep.  My students would count on me to be alert, I mean, it was Friday!

I did fall back asleep but not until 5:30 am and then the alarm went off at 6:00 am.  I got up and did my regular morning routine.  I went outside to check our cars to make sure nothing was done to them. (at 2:30 am, I was not going outside to check on the cars by myself) Everything seemed fine until I got to my daughter’s car.  I unlocked it and went to open it,  that’s when I realized it wasn’t really closed.  It was like someone opened it, the alarm went off, they got scared and slightly closed the door so it would catch and look closed. (her locks don’t always work)

I checked inside, in the trunk and underneath the car.   I was mad!  My ninja skills kicked in and I was ready to kick some butt.  This was my child’s property.  Nothing was taken, but it was violated!  You mess with my kid, you mess with me!  I prayed for her safety.  I prayed for protection over her life and her property.  I prayed over our home and over my family.  I know God has our back and he encamped His angels around us that night.  

She didn’t want to leave by herself, so we left together that morning.  That afternoon, I had an outing with my parents.  My daughter didn’t want to go home by herself, so she came to hang out with me.  After getting home that evening, she made sure to remind me to check and make sure all the doors were locked before she went to bed.

Reality

I know that my child is a young adult.  But I also know that regardless of their age, marital status, their own children, their jobs and lives, my children still need me to protect them through prayer.  Prayer is the only way you can protect your children when you aren’t around them.  Prayer should be the first thing you do.  I know I can’t always be with them, even with my grandson, but I do know that God loves them and me and He wants what’s best for us.  I know that He is always with us and He protects and provides for us and you, if you let Him.

Be encourage today to let go and let God protect you and your children; your whole lives! He wants to and He does even without you knowing.  He loves you!

 

Home

Home as always been the place I can go where I feel safe and secure.  It is the place where love abounds.  It’s where it is always a mess of toys and dirty dishes.  It’s a place of wonder and questions.  It’s a place of “who done it” and “nobody”.

Home is where you can be you without the judgement of others.  It’s where it is warm from the cold and cool from the heat.  It is where all your most prize possessions reside.  It’s where you can stay and never leave.  It’s where tears are shed and hearts are healed.  It’s where love is found and happiness survives.

Home is where memories are made and remembered.  It’s where water is wasted and experiments become creations.  It’s where learning takes place and character is made. It’s where forgiveness is rendered and grace still flows.

Home is where you invite your friends and grow your relationships.  It’s where you hold tight those you love and never let go.  It’s where you sleep to dream and dream to live.  It’s where you grow old and move on and someday be remember by the “home” you created.