Why I Stopped Praying for my Future Husband

Two years ago, I started feeling attractive.  (What?) A nice gentleman and I started talking and I felt that I might be ready to get married again in the near future.  He used the words, “Godly Wife”. So I started reading Proverbs 31 and following groups on Facebook and Instagram to figure out what that even was.

Being a Christ-follower, I spoke to my Heavenly Father first.  I remember making this big long list of things I wanted and didn’t want.  I put it under my pillow and prayed over it every night before bed. Then I started following this group that taught me how to pray and what to pray for a future spouse.  It was great. I read the scriptures and prayed the prayers for a year. It became hard. I became obsessed and confused thinking I was already good enough and ready. Asking, “When is my time? Why not me?  Is he the one?

I even took a really good paid course on becoming and finding my future husband.  The course work was hard because it made me dig deeper into my prayer life and who my Heavenly Father is and how becoming “the one” is just as important as finding “the one”. My long list became a short list.  My short list includes: God, Protector, Provider, Lover and Best Friend. It was a great course. I’m glad I did it and I recommend it.

But like I said, I became obsessed.  I thought about it all the time. I wanted it to happen when I wanted it to happen and with who I wanted it to happen with.  I would just look at a guy and say, “Maybe he’s the one.” I would even look for a wedding ring.  

So I decided to close that season of my life because it took me away from who I am and who I want to be.  I hadn’t worried about what my life should look like or who I should be with for a very long time. I have God and my family, a career I love and a wonderful purpose given by God.  I am complete. I was making a mountain out of a molehill. I was creating chaos in my peaceful life. Worrying about things that are out of my control. So no more praying for my future husband.

If God blesses me with another someone, then I will wait and let it be a surprise.  I love surprises!

A Prayer for my Future Husband!

God said, “ I know your heart, but ask me!”  I’m too afraid”, I said.  “What if this isn’t really what I want?”, I said nervously.  “It’s the desire of your heart.  I know, I put it there”, He said.  “Well, maybe someday, maybe someday, I will.”  I said quietly.


Recently, I prayed:


Heavenly Father, I pray for my future husband.  I pray he loves you above all else.  He has Godly eyes to see you.  Godly ears to hear your voice.  A Godly mouth to say your words.  Godly hands and feet to serve others.  A Godly heart to love you and seek you out.  A personality that makes me laugh and a heart for family.  


And Lord, please share these Godly attributes with his future wife, in Jesus’ name, Amen.


Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart.  Psalm 37:4


You will seek me and find me when you search for me with all your heart.  Jeremiah 29:13


Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.  Matthew 7:7


If you believe, you will receive whatever you ask in prayer.  Matthew 21:22


And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son .

John 14:13


BUT seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.  Matthew 6:33